Thursday, October 7, 2010

Saving Malaysia for Malaysian (by us, Malaysian).

  
  When I watch movies like Pearl Harbour,Saving Private Ryan or mini series like Pacific,The Band of Brothers,they remind me how comfort we are living in this era. No war to think about,no one will lost their son in the battle. No Malaysian country man will go to war,yet. We only defend ourselves diplomatically.

  I'm not the one who really scared to scratch my dignity,but when its associated with dignity of my country,it's becomes sensitive. Lately,I have many reason for me to become sensitive. Border invasion by neighboring country,no respect for the people of Malaysia seems to be worsen by the people from other country.

  Am I too linent as a countryman? Or I being regarded as a coward until the issue of sovereignty can be question by our neighboring country? I understand that our government have a full capability to handle satuation like this,but we keep on losing  piece after piece of land to other country. We have to follow what other country want and not only me,many of Malaysian citizen regarded the deal as a bias deal. We are not in win-win satuation. I don't understand how our administrator apply their strategy to protect our country,to protect us as their citizen.

  When we give a shoot to look at ourselves on how people look at us,we can conclude "us" in many ways. People see Malaysia as unstable nation because we have many colors in our country. Many tradition to respect,many way to follow. This satuation spark a strong sense of Malaysian politics. We Malaysian,we are good in making stories,making joke and we attract to bad rumors. This is why we have a lot of well spoken politician,but when come to execution,they can not deliver. Malaysian politician,regardless which party they are in,they have the same attitude. Talk only,cannot work. Many people like to join politics in Malaysia because politician in Malaysia,they have capability to turn politics to money making machine. And production is huge.

  Corporate leaders, in majority, they don't have to be familiar with the companies nature of business and their field. The important matter to reach this position,we have to know how to please people. You please the right people,you go up. I rub your back,you rub my back. Performance will be number 10. This is why we need foreign people who we call them expatriates to make Malaysian company policy,the policy that will influence many of their workers who always suffer from under pay salary. We like to be a pen holder. We like to put signature which represent power. It always a go  for us to sign,even the terms and condition are WIN-win satuation. More win to the other side and less win to the people of Malaysia. But the bigger win must go to the pen holder and his cronies.

  Malaysian,they are all time,not under hard labor mood. They want to make an easier task,glam job. The job they can proud off. One more time,we call foreigners from the country with lower pay scale then us to come and work here as hard labor. They are cheap,they work hard,not much politics, they not intend to "naik pangkat". They are clean from all of that. What they want is salary. So they work here for 2 years and they went back to their country.

  So,where is Malaysian position in one company operating in Malaysia..? GLC or MNC or Public listed or even our own kitchen..? Where are we..? What I understand from daily life in Malaysia,we hanging at the middle. We cannot go up, because we believe that our knowledge is not sufficient enough to convince other Malaysian corporation leader to rub their back and we can't go down because we cannot do the unglamorous job. So we become an executive,receptionist,clerk,assistance to who and who or vice to who and who. We hope we can gain some experience from there,play a lot of politics and we can go up and hire more foreigners to do core executive work or basic hard labor work. In our kitchen,we need a maid. The maid that born and rise from other nation. We invite them come and live with us. We trust them with our children,with our food. Our children spend more time with them while we busy working with this corporation with foreign made policy. There goes the next Malaysian generation,rise in foreigners hand. I realize this. My 5 years old girl now speak more Bahasa Indonesia compare to Bahasa Malaysia. We're too dependent on other country to survive.

  We still looking for solution here,but we need to remember,solution always come when we want to make a little change on how we look at ourselves. Thats all, noting more than that...

Save Malaysia.

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Life Goes On.


  I'm in my second week enjoying myself as a smoke free guy. Oh God. I love this life so much. My wife loves me more,my kids love me more, and my friend a bit impressed with my ability to quit smoking. My sleep improved to the deep sleep. My heart not working extra anymore. Now pumping in relax mode. Doing it's job distributing blood to my cell efficiently.

  Lately,I being burden with tones of working paper to look at. Pressure increased. Normally day like this I need at least 40 sticks of cigarettes to switch of the day with a huge carry forward papers for me to continue cracking my head tomorrow. But now,I can get more focus doing things like this. Less left over,I can save at least one day of my life to finish all since I free myself from nicotine. More day for me to rest and relax. What I need,just coffee and lots of chewing gum.

  I enjoy my fitness more then ever..!! I swim longer,I run longer,I workout longer. My lung give full cooperation in this issue. It hasn't hiccup. I always worry about my lung since I restart doing fitness 7 month ago. I accumulate nicotine and fat in my bloodstream for many years. Now worry no more. Quit smoking make my lung working better and cleaner.

  Smell good everyday. No more cigarette burn smelly guy with ashes and burn mark on shirt. I realize this when one of my friend's secretary come close to me and ask,"Since when you smell good..?" Woohoo...!! I have been recognized by a fussy woman as a good smell guy. It's hard for her to say good thing,even her boss will shut his mouth up when she start nagging about things she don't like. I like me not smelly.

  Feeling good everyday. Life goes on since then. Hopefully its last longer. Gals and guys like me better. I make more acquaintance and new friend. Old friend become closer. Good things happening a lot lately....

Oh My God, I Love My Life.


*Special Thank you to Armin Baniaz Pahamin and all friends who give encouragement for me to quit smoking.

Thursday, September 23, 2010

Running and Smoking.





  Since I marked my first 10km finished and still a smoker at that time,I never dream to quit smoking. I enjoy running and smoking very much. Being a smoker and finish my running without too much trouble is an achievement for me. If you want to run casually and not targeting any race to win,yes,you can take cigarette as your good buddy. Actually our running performance is up to our training. How hard you push yourself during training is matters. How you implement the tips and technique is the other important reason to succeed your run.
I have many no-smoker friends who still struggling to finish their 5km run below 30 minute. I clocked my own bench mark for 5km run in 24min.  So,why quit smoking..?

   It can be a million reason I can give to quit smoking. May be I can blame nicotine for risking my heart condition or popular lung cancer or just want to have a clean image. Many of us worry,our health condition will get worth if we keep smoking. Smoking is one of the many reason for you to get heart problem or cancer or bad image. Lim Wei Yee,a runner in Standard Chartered KL Marathon only taking part in 10km run and dies at 8km mark due to heart problem. He is a non smoker forever. Many of my friend who smoke and taking part in longer miles and more intense survived and finished the run. Smoking me clocked sub 3hrs for 21km. Why it's happend to a non-smoker like Lim Wei Yee..?

  My lady neighbor past away last year due to her stage 4 lung cancer. According to her husband,she never smoke,never consume alcohol and practice a healthy life. I never see her drink at mamak restaurant in our area. Why she become a cancer victim since she never had nicotine through cigarette. 

  To quit smoking,you don't need a million reason,or even health condition. You just need somebody to spark you to quit. Nothing more then that. Even you yourself can be that "somebody". If you want to wait for a reason to do so,you will keep buying pack after pack of cigarette for long time. For me,I did it at once. I quit as soon as I read one of my friend status in facebook declaring he and his brother in law quit smoking. I just jump in to the bandwagon and cruse together with them as a non-smoker. It's not an easy part in life,but this process give me higher challenge,good lesson how to control ourself. 

   To the smokers, I urge you to try this,you won't regrets. You'll find out about self honesty level which we always lineal toward it all this while. It is interesting experience,where you need to be a real you. This experience is about controlling your mind,stop yourself and be calm. I like myself better.


Quit Smoking is one of the best way to enjoy life...


*Special Thank you to Armin Baniaz Pahamin and all friends who give encouragement for me to quit smoking.
  

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Quit Smoking: Feeling Ood.

 
  Quit smoking is something new to me. It's never across my mind since I started this habit 24 years ago. I'm in my second day without smoke and ash when I write this blog. It's not as easy as thought. Since my first stick of cigarette when I was a college student in Kolej Damansara Utama back in 1986.

    Smoking is a big and long term commitment. My experience as a smoker is not pleasant. Many time I being caught red handed by the in flight airline crew due to smoking in their aircraft toilet during long hole flight. I will not sit right up in the long meeting and  frequently taking break for coffee and cigarette. Having family dinner in restaurant is not simple. I will ask for smoking section,If they don't have it or the section is full,I will change venue or postpone our dinner to some other time. Selfish isn't it..?

    Many people have to give their way to the smoker me. They sacrifice their time,their comfort and clean air to satisfied my smoking habit. I realize this since ever. But to take a small step to quit smoking,its require me a "many years of excuses" and a strong soul to spark it. I know,it's not an easy process,I know. But for the seek of me,my family and my society,I need to come with this big commitment,quit smoking.

     Dizziness,constant headache,a little anxiety and lost focus,start kicking. My blood pressure now a little hight then normal.  This all side effect of the lake of nicotine. It's will go away over time. Maximum 2 week. I called my doctor and and explain about my condition and seek advice to what to do or do I need any medication. She said if I can stand without any drug is the best way to quit and face off circumstance. I will face this side effect anyway, since my body need to adjust with this new environment and condition. Of course 20 years of accumulating nicotine will give a lot of effect to my body and for my body to adopt  lake of nicotine in my bloodstream,its will take some time.

  An oath,one promise,understanding alone is not enough for me to quit smoking. I need execution,more action and all the support I can get from people around me. It's hard yes,but if I have enough guts to quit, I'll be free from this in few weeks time.

God,help me to quit this,
Help me to quit this bad habbit.
And I'll be free forever from smoking..!!



*Special Thank you to Armin Baniaz Pahamin and all friends who give encouragement for me to quit smoking.

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

I'm Quit..!!

                        

   Nicotine is a highly addictive drug and the withdrawals can be intense. I inspired by one of my friend and he also the one who make me start my fitness. Armin quit smoking..!! Good  news for me. At the same time he gives me idea to quit smoking too. I need somebody to inspired me to do something extreme (to me,quit smoking is extremely hard.)  All this while I depend on nicotine to calm me down,but now I try to push up and sit up to replace cigarettes. Hopefully it's working. As I write this blog,it's already 2 and half hours without cigarettes. So far so good. I try to implement my friend Chia Kai running strategy, The more we want to quit,the faster we have to run. In quiting nicotine,the more I want to give-up quiting,the harder I reject it. I have to control my demand for cigarettes by telling my mind "do not dare to dream of it. I will not do it..!!"

   I will give a full commitment and cooperation. This a good effort to get a better and greener life. Well.. sayonara to cigarette after my first stick of cigge in 1986... 

   

Friday, September 17, 2010

Green Living.

Green Living. 
  • Green living is about energy efficiency we use everyday. How much petrol do you use today?
  • Green living is about waste disposal we produce everyday. Do you still use plastic bags?
  • Green living is about natural recourses. Do you let the water run while brushing teeth?
  • Green living is about our lifestyle. Are you ready to live in Green living?
   We in Malaysia are still segregated in this issue. We are still waiting for action. The problem we face is still handled with old fashioned way. The way that involves destruction of the environment.


  Living in environment is like living inside the house. We will avoid damage to the house in which we live.We do not destroy our houses because we see, the damage will affect our daily live.


  What is happening now, we make a lot of damage to our planet without realizing that the house we built and protect is located on the ground that we ruined.


  All those aware of this. Why we not doing anything to reduce the damage we do to the earth? Is it because the attitude of Malaysians who like to wait for the corporate or political people do, then we are going to do. Or wait for financial returns, such as subsidy?


  Changing lifestyle is something that is not hard to do. We always blame others for failing to provide a platform for us to make changes. What if tomorrow we carry our own shopping bags to buy daily necessities? And we bring our own shopping bag everytime we go for shopping. Changes start from here, one per cent of 24 hours.


  Start tomorrow with the closing water taps when brushing teeth and so on for each morning.You will enjoy a better life, no matter who you are. You  will provide an opportunity for us who live today and tomorrow for future generation. What you do today is important for tomorrow.


  

Thursday, September 16, 2010

Living Among Us. (Tips about backstabber)

How to Handle Backstabbers.

In my experience of more then 40 years of life, I encounter few or more backstabber along the way. At first, I tried to keep a distance from such people to keep my self a victim of false story. But now, I just don't paid any attention to those people because I know who I am and you can't avoid them because they are every way. Most of the time I listen to this false story, I'll laugh at it and tell the one who told me, "Who tell you such story, he must be misunderstood."

What is a backstabber?

A backstabber is the person who act as your friend, laugh and smile with you, shake your hand and give you a hug, and like any other friends and relatives you know; But when you're not watching, he or she make false story out of you, exaggerate the story and make you a bad person. This kind of people envy you and their strategy is taking you out of your comfort and destroying your good name. They will crush you in any way they can, even try to kill you maybe.

How do you handle such people?

If you found out there is a backstabber in your circle and connection, you can follow my tips. I learn this from experience of mine and friends. I also have a counter backstabber technique which backfire the backstabber which I included below.

Be a good person as you can be. When you do all things good, there's no space for backstabber to tell bad story about you. They can only try to fabricate story to make you bad. If they do, ignore such story and keep your self happy. The more happier you are, the more annoyed the backstabber be. Ignore their story and maintain your normal life. You don't want to start a war. At this rate, they are the good guy and you with their fabricated story about you are not good nor bad.
Watch your mouth when you talk. There are only one room for a backstabber in your life, it's either them or you. If you start talking bad of other people, people won't like you and they will switch side immediately. All your anger must be keep to your self. It's not the right time to unleash your angry tiger. You must think before you talk or otherwise your are not better than the backstabber it self.

It is important to be your self and try to improve in any way you can. You don't want this silly matters to run in a long run because this backstabbing business is not things that can gain profit but a lot more expenses in life. The more lies out there will make life more miserable. The backstabber will have to live their life with tons of lies they created and sooner or later, they will lost track of their lies any the truth shall prevail. So, don't be a backstabber.